I have been absent from the blog for a while now. Visiting and caring for my mom has taken up a good bit of my free time over the last two years and she relinquished her battle to her Lord and Savior last Friday, February 12, 2016. I rarely post about my personal life, so please indulge me here.
My mom, Virginia (Ginny) Carol Damon Nordbusch was born in 1931, she was almost 85 years old when she passed. She grew up in Mayville, New York. My mom was very artistic and musically inclined. She was a band member in high school, playing clarinet and percussion instruments, her favorite being the Tympani drums. She graduated from Cassadaga Valley Central School in Sinclairville, New York where she served as art editor of the yearbook staff. Here is one of her illustrations from the 1949 yearbook. Her dream was to work for Walt Disney.
While working as a waitress in a Swedish restaurant in Jamestown, New York, she met a “nice Swedish boy,” Jack Nordbusch and they were married in 1951. She never realized her dream to work for Walt Disney.
Jack accepted a job in San Diego, California and Jack and Ginny set off on an adventure and drove from Jamestown, New York to San Diego in this Dodge pick-up truck with an Airstream trailer in tow. Notice the handmade topper on the pickup truck – my Dad was ahead of his time!
In 1953, my Dad was offered a job in Florida at Patrick Air Force Base. They picked up and moved from San Diego to Melbourne, Florida with the Airstream Trailer in tow again. This was the ultimate “tiny” house and where I lived for the first three years of my life.
In 1954 Ginny gave birth to a daughter, Lora Lee Nordbusch, and in 1959, another daughter, Tamie Lee Nordbusch. Yes, we both have the same middle name. Not sure what was up with that. My nickname was “Lolee.” In fact I was named Lora Lee, just because my mom liked the nickname.
My mom loved music, especially opera. She has a collection of more CD’s than I want to count. She instilled in me her love of music and the performing arts and we attended many performances together in her later years. Ginny was very active in church activities, including teaching Sunday School and serving on the altar guild. She also sang in the choir for many years. She loved to study The Bible and has many different published version of The Bible to prove it.
Probably the biggest gift my mom gave me was teaching me to sew. In high school I made much of my wardrobe and sewed for others in the summer to make spending money. Of course, I probably spent the money on fabric! Some things never change. My mom was an excellent seamstress and she wanted me to learn the correct way to do things. I became familiar with the seam ripper at an early age. I think that is were I got perfectionism tendencies.
After my Dad passed away in 2002, I convinced my mom to move to Gainesville, FL to live closer to me so I could look after her. She became a Type I diabetic when she was pregnant with me and had it for 61 years. She was very diligent at managing her diabetes, but it was a struggle, as she was a very brittle diabetic with blood glucose levels that were difficult to control. Doctors loved her, as she was a very compliant patient, but she still had this condition that impacted every aspect of her adult life.
My mom was very sick the last few years of her life and I am forever changed by the experience. It taught me qualities I was not much accustomed to like flexibility, patience, compassion and unselfishness. I never have had children of my own and this role reversal of me becoming the parent of my parent was a difficult one for me. My heart is still heavy with the loss, but I am happy to know that she is no longer suffering. I am hoping that time will heal my pain.